Olympic freestyle skier and actor Gus Kenworthy is known for his unfiltered honesty, and his latest interview on Grindr Presents: Who’s the A**hole? with RuPaul’s Drag Race star Katya was no exception. The openly gay athlete, who has starred in American Horror Story: 1984 and Will & Grace, didn’t hold back as he shared his thoughts on sex, relationships, and hookup culture in the LGBTQ+ community.
The episode, which aired on February 27, saw Kenworthy discuss everything from open relationships and jealousy to threesomes, foursomes, and even public sex—solidifying himself as one of the most candid guests in the series’ history.
Dating a Friend’s Ex: Where’s the Line?
When asked whether it’s acceptable to date a friend’s ex, Kenworthy admitted that it’s a grey area that depends on multiple factors, including the length of the relationship and how much time has passed since the breakup.
“I feel like a close friend, a long relationship… even if it’s been a long time, I think it’s pretty off-limits,” he explained.
However, if the relationship was short and enough time has passed, Kenworthy believes it might be okay—with one key condition:
“You have to ask them if it’s okay.”
Defining Relationships: The Modern Dating Dilemma
Kenworthy pushed back on the idea of giving a partner a timeline to define a relationship, arguing that forcing an ultimatum can push someone away. Instead, he believes communication should be organic and natural:
“Are we like exclusive? Are we still hooking up with other people? Are we together? Are we boyfriends?”
“There are so many f*cking tiers. You can be seeing someone, but you’re not dating. You can be dating someone, but you’re not boyfriends. You can be boyfriends, but you’re not exclusive…”
His take highlights how queer relationships often break away from heteronormative expectations, allowing for fluidity and self-definition.
Are Gay Couples Mostly Open?
Katya pressed Kenworthy on whether he knew many gay couples in exclusive, monogamous relationships. His response?
“I would not say a lot, no. I would say most of the people that I know that are in long-term relationships are… in some way, shape, or form, open.”
According to Kenworthy, open relationships take many forms, from couples who engage in casual hookups together to those who have a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. He acknowledged, however, that some couples do remain fully monogamous.
Jealousy and Queer Love: Finding Balance
When Katya admitted she sometimes struggles with jealousy in open relationships, Kenworthy shared his own perspective.
“Not really,” he said, before adding, “But I also think that a little bit of jealousy is good. Like, if you’re really that interested in this person, there should be like a…”
Katya chimed in: “A little romantic?”
“Yeah, it is a little bit romantic to be protective,” Kenworthy agreed.
More importantly, Kenworthy emphasised that trust, honesty, and communication are the foundations of any successful relationship—open or not.
“One of the things that’s beautiful about queer relationships is that we are—just by nature—non-traditional. So we don’t actually have to conform to heteronormative traditions. We’re sexual beings, and we can navigate that.”
Public Sex: Hot or Not?
Kenworthy admitted he enjoys the idea of public sex, though with some limits.
“Yeah, I’m pretty into it,” he revealed, before clarifying that he doesn’t support situations where others might feel uncomfortable.
Instead, he prefers more discreet encounters:
“Like a dark room at a club. I think it’s kind of hot to f*ck someone in a dark room. Or doing it in nature, but not necessarily with people around, I think it’s hot.”
Threesomes and Foursomes: A Way of Life?
When asked about threesomes, Kenworthy didn’t hesitate:
“I do like threesomes, yeah.”
He then made a surprising confession:
“I would say I’ve had more threesomes than I’ve had sex, like, one-on-one with people.”
This, he explained, is due to always being in relationships—many of which eventually became open.
“Most of the time that I’ve had sex with other people has been a threesome or a foursome.”
Even so, Kenworthy noted that threesomes can be tricky if the chemistry between all parties isn’t balanced.
“Make sure [the third is] kind of equally into you and your partner. Because that ends up being the thing that makes threesomes not really work.”
He also joked about kicking people out of threesomes if the vibe is off:
“You try to be kind of courteous, like, ‘Hey, I think you’re really great and it’s been really fun, but I think we’re actually, maybe, not feeling it.’”
Breaking the Mold: Kenworthy’s Take on Queer Relationships
Throughout the interview, Kenworthy consistently highlighted how LGBTQ+ relationships don’t have to conform to traditional norms. His openness about sex, dating, and non-monogamy reflects a growing movement within the community—one that embraces self-expression, honesty, and fluidity in relationships.
“The baseline is trust, honesty, communication. And then you can set your own parameters, and you can move through the relationship however you want to.”
Whether discussing open relationships, public sex, or threesomes, Kenworthy’s candidness was refreshing, making him one of the most entertaining guests in Katya’s Who’s the A**hole? Series to date.
