More than a decade together, deeply in love and absolutely no wedding plans! Sarah Paulson has opened up about why she and longtime partner Holland Taylor have no intention of tying the knot — even though she says their relationship already feels like a marriage.
Who says a great love story needs a wedding?
For Hollywood favourites Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor, the answer is apparently no one!
The two celebrated actresses have been together since 2015, becoming one of entertainment’s most recognisable LGBTQ+ couples.
But despite their long-term commitment, marriage has never been a major priority.
During an appearance on Chelsea Handler’s Dear Chelsea podcast on Thursday 12 November, Paulson explained why she values the independence she has maintained throughout their relationship.
And while she’s certainly not questioning her love for Taylor, the idea of a wedding still gives her the “heebie-jeebies”.
‘I Feel Married To Her’
Speaking with Handler, Paulson explained that she doesn’t need a wedding or legal ceremony to validate the relationship she shares with Taylor.
“I feel married to her,” the American Horror Story star said.
For Paulson, the strength of their relationship comes from their emotional connection rather than its legal status.
The 51-year-old actor said she’s happy never to have married because she believes doing so has allowed her to maintain an important sense of independence.
She also explained that she feels uncomfortable with the idea of making their commitment something permanently formalised.
But that doesn’t mean she wants distance from Taylor.
Paulson stressed that her feelings about marriage have nothing to do with wanting another relationship or being less connected to her partner.
Instead, she values the freedom that comes from building a life together on their own terms.
Neither Wants To Be Called A ‘Wife’
Paulson also revealed that traditional marital labels don’t particularly appeal to either woman.
“I don’t like to be called ‘wife,'” she told Handler.
According to Paulson, Taylor feels much the same way.
For both actors, the idea of belonging to another person is not how they prefer to describe their partnership.
That doesn’t diminish the commitment they’ve built over more than a decade.
Instead, Paulson sees their relationship as something that can be deeply loving and lasting without following every traditional expectation.
Her comments also echo remarks Taylor made during a 2024 interview with Andy Cohen.
The Two and a Half Men star explained that marriage wasn’t something the couple had seriously discussed with any particular interest.
Taylor said they could marry if they wanted to, but neither felt the need.
Separate Homes, Strong Connection
Their approach to marriage isn’t the only way Paulson and Taylor have challenged conventional relationship expectations.
The pair have also spoken openly about maintaining separate homes.
In a 2024 appearance on the SmartLess podcast, Paulson joked that not living together was the secret to their successful relationship.
They spend significant amounts of time together, but their individual homes and busy acting schedules also allow them personal space.
Taylor has previously explained that their arrangement works particularly well because both women have established careers and lives.
They also spend time together in New York when their schedules allow.
It’s an approach that may not work for every couple, but both have described it as a positive part of their relationship.
And for Paulson, maintaining independence doesn’t mean sacrificing intimacy.
Her latest comments suggest she sees their connection as deeply secure without needing to follow a conventional relationship blueprint.
A Love Story More Than A Decade In The Making
Paulson and Taylor first met in 2005 before reconnecting years later.
Their relationship began in 2015 and became public later that year.
Since then, the pair have become a much-loved presence on red carpets and at industry events, regularly expressing admiration and support for one another.
Paulson, known for American Horror Story, Ratched and The People v. O. J. Simpson, has spoken warmly about Taylor’s intelligence, humour and influence on her life.
Taylor, whose career includes Two and a Half Men, The Morning Show and an extensive body of theatre work, has also praised Paulson’s talent and dedication.
The couple’s 32-year age difference has attracted public attention over the years, although both have consistently spoken about their relationship in terms of their personal connection rather than outside expectations.
Now, as they approach another anniversary together, Paulson says she remains happy with the life they’ve built.
Love Doesn’t Have To Look The Same For Everyone
For LGBTQ+ audiences, Paulson and Taylor’s relationship offers an interesting perspective on commitment and what makes a partnership meaningful.
Marriage equality remains an important legal achievement, giving same-sex couples the right to marry and access the protections that come with it.
But having that choice doesn’t mean every couple wants to exercise it.
Some people celebrate their relationships through weddings and legal marriage.
Others prefer different arrangements that reflect their personalities, circumstances and shared values.
For Paulson and Taylor, that means a committed relationship built around love, mutual respect and independence — without plans for a wedding.
And judging by Paulson’s latest interview, they’re perfectly happy keeping it that way.
