From the catwalk to coffee shops, Toby Smiles is redefining what visibility looks like for people with disabilities. With charm, confidence and an unshakeable sense of purpose, Toby – model, influencer and now author – is opening hearts and minds.
We caught up with Toby to talk confidence, community, and the power of simply showing up – exactly as you are.
Growing up, what did representation mean to you?
Seeing someone who moved like me – someone with Cerebral Palsy – was rare but powerful. It told me that disability isn’t a limitation. Now, I want to be that kind of representation. Whether I’m rolling the runway or grabbing Starbucks, I hope others with CP can see possibility in my presence. Visibility isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being seen.
Was there a specific moment when confidence took hold for you?
Confidence came in layers. It was never instant. My faith has been a huge part of that growth – Jesus reminds me my worth was established long before any audience came along.
Also, I’ve got an incredible PR manager, Becca, who’s helped me own my voice. She pushes me to share my story, helps with press and is always celebrating the little wins. Her belief helped mine grow stronger.
What do you wish more people understood about disability?
We’re smart. We’re capable. Don’t baby us or speak down to us. Just treat us with respect – that’s all we want.
You recently came out publicly as gay—how was that experience for you? Do you have any advice for others who may be considering coming out also?
Picture your heart pulsing in rainbow rhythm while you’re still clinging to faith—that was me the day I came out. For a decade, I wrestled with questions, yet each sunrise whispered there’s space for both Jesus’ embrace and self-embrace.
Saying “I’m gay” out loud felt like splashing colour across a sky that had been grey for too long: terrifying for a beat, then wildly liberating.
My advice?
• Honour your timeline. There’s no “too late” or “too soon,” only “ready.”
• Build a safety net. One trusted friend, therapist, or online group can catch you on the tough days.
• Start small and breathe. Whisper it in a journal, then in conversation, before posting it to the world. Each step rehearses acceptance.
• Stay rooted spiritually (if faith is your thing). My relationship with Jesus didn’t evaporate—it deepened. Prayer reframed my fear as purpose.
• Remember it’s a journey, not a single announcement. Living openly is an ongoing rhythm; give yourself grace as you navigate each new space.
Why did you write Smiles that Inspire?
I wanted to share my story so others feel empowered to embrace themselves unapologetically. Life isn’t always easy, but it’s worth living out loud.
What was the toughest part to write?
The family stuff. Reliving hard moments still hurts.
Your faith clearly plays a big role in your life.
Absolutely. My relationship with Jesus got me through the darkest times. It still grounds me now when things feel heavy.
Where did your love for fashion and modelling come from?
I’ve always loved expressing myself – fashion and the camera let me do that without limits. It’s freedom.
What does real allyship look like to you?
Being kind. Being honest. Asking the little questions—like whether a ramp works for someone’s wheelchair—shows you care.
You’re very open on social media. Why?
Because showing my real life helps break stereotypes. No filter can replace the power of honesty.
Do you ever feel pressure to stay upbeat all the time?
Not really. I just stay honest. Realness resonates more than forced positivity ever could.
Have any reader responses surprised you?
There’ve been so many amazing messages—it’s hard to pick just one. Each means the world.
What’s next for you?
I’ve got a Starbucks collab on the horizon (super pumped!), I’m working towards earning a blue checkmark on Instagram and TikTok, and I’ll be attending VidCon. It’s all happening!
What advice would you give young people with disabilities who admire you?
Love yourself. Jesus already does.
And to your younger self?
Stop worrying about others’ opinions. You’re enough, exactly as you are.
Toby’s memoir Smiles that Inspire is out now—$25 for paperback and $30 for the hardcover photo edition via Amazon. It’s not just a story – it’s a statement!
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