Category: Opinion

Mar 09
Why Straight Men Should Be A Gay Man’s Best Friend

Best known for his four-legged friends, Woof Rainbow Dog Show founder Steven Oates returns to YOUR ex to bestow the virtues of friendships with straight men. I love straight men. I know that as gay men we are prone to the odd crush on the straight guy at work, the tradie down the road or […]

Mar 06
Looking For Love That Lasts Beyond The First Meet?

Dick Richards preaches abstinence… well, for the first date anyway. Have you ever wondered why a fuckbuddy or a hook-up never turns into anything more? Let me ask you this: If your flesh-light or dildo could talk, would you strike up a conversation with it? I’m guessing not. What’s the correlation, you ask? It’s quite […]

Mar 06
Opinion: Who are you calling ‘Cis’?

Elijah Luke Michel explores the origins of the term ‘cisgender’ and searches for an alternative to appease those who find it offensive. Over the years I have often wondered who coined the term ‘cisgender’ and what they were thinking? Innocently introduced in 1994 to highlight cis-normativity and cis-sexism (a bias towards cisgender people) by researcher […]

Mar 01
Social Media and Homophobic Violence in Christchurch

Craig Young reflects on recent attacks on gay men in Christchurch using the hook-up app Grindr. In Christchurch, a recent trial disclosed that a group of Christchurch teenagers have been using the gay/bi/MSM hookup app Grindr to target gay men. The teenagers used the app to lure local gay male users of the app to […]

Feb 16
Marching To Nowhere: The Return of Brian Tamaki

Craig Young shudders at yet another attempt at relevancy from Brian Tamaki. If you thought Brian Tamaki was being far too quiet, unfortunately, it seems he didn’t take the hint when his latest Freedoms New Zealand puppet party bombed at the polls. The “Bishop of Bling” is planning a national march next month, on March 5, […]

Feb 14
Navigating Romance on the Transgender Spectrum

Fresh from Valentine’s gaudy pink and red glow, Elijah Luke Michel explores the complexities of finding romance as a transgender person. It’s that delightful time again! Of love, romance and far-reaching fairy tales. Sappy dramas, red roses, and clickbait for commercialism, along with a proverbial kick in the teeth for those in unhappy relationships and […]

Feb 06
Opinion: What A Second Trump Presidency Means For New Zealand?

Craig Young questions how Aotearoa should react to a second Trump win and the impact of Rainbow communities worldwide. If Donald Trump wins the next US federal election later this year, Aotearoa/New Zealand needs to start thinking seriously about its future foreign policy. The United States itself may not survive much longer as a coherent […]

Feb 02
Embracing Pride, Resilience & Good Health: A Status-Neutral Approach to HIV

Tom Naves from Body Positive highlights the importance of sexual health, especially during Pride season in Aotearoa, New Zealand. In February, we celebrate our resilience and pride in belonging to Aotearoa’s colourful and diverse rainbow community. This Pride Month, we want to ensure we are as festive as we are conscious of our sexual health. […]