Ask Lisa: To Reunion or Not To Reunion?


Rainbow Counsellor Lisa Michelle is here to help with your problems.

I have a 30th anniversary school reunion coming up and am undecided if I should go. I come from a small town where everyone knows everyone else, and when I was at school I was male. I have since transitioned and have been living as a woman for the past 9 years. Do I go at all? And if so, do I go as myself?

Absolutely go as yourself, if you choose to go. You have spent most of your life living as a female in a male body, so it would be incredibly invalidating to go backwards, so to speak. I would suggest making a list of pros and cons about whether to go or not, and if you decide it is important to you, then grab a close friend to accompany you as moral support, get dressed up and show them your beautiful self!


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Lisa Michelle is a Chaplain and Counsellor for the GLBT Community, working with both Rainbow Youth and OUTLine NZ as an independent consultant and also on the board of OUTLine.