Sydney-based journalist and radio producer Joshua Fox has shared a candid look at his 2024 experiences on Grindr in a viral TikTok that he’s dubbed his personal “Grindr Wrapped.”
In the video, Fox breaks down a year of encounters with striking honesty, providing statistics and insights into his hookups, emotions, and motivations.
“This year, I hooked up with 84 people, which might sound like a lot,” he explained, “but that’s actually a 163% decrease from last year. That’s what we call growth.”
Fox revealed that he spent 55% of his hookups in what he called his “top era,” a first for him. However, he admitted that names weren’t always a priority.
“Only 13% of the time I asked their name beforehand,” he said. “The other 87%? I didn’t care.”
Joshua also delved into how he felt before and after each encounter.
“Before the hookup, I was occasionally horny, mostly sad, sometimes content, and often fell in love with them,” he confessed.
But the aftermath was often less rosy. “The most common feelings afterwards were shame and regret.”
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Fox’s viral TikTok, now with over 3 million views, sparked curiosity about how he compiled the data. In a follow-up video, he shared his method:
“Every time I meet someone, I make a quick note in my phone of their name and location,” he said. “If I don’t get their name, I use descriptors like ‘Sweet Jake,’ ‘Muscly Japanese,’ ‘Tacky & Drunk,’ or ‘Older Random.’ Then I update a spreadsheet later.”
Fox said the most significant part of his spreadsheet wasn’t the names or numbers—it was tracking his emotions.
“A lot of the time, I’m meeting people because I’m depressed,” he revealed. “When I’m at my worst, I meet multiple people in a single day. That’s why my therapist encouraged me to journal and ask myself, ‘Why am I doing this?’”
Those journals eventually formed the foundation of his new book, What You Into?, which details his experiences on Grindr, his struggles with sex addiction, and his battle with depression.
“The book wasn’t planned,” Fox said in another TikTok. “The day my husband left me, I didn’t know how to process it. So I started writing. At first, it was just about my spiral into Grindr and casual hookups for validation.
“This is such a toxic cycle that many people are stuck in, but no one talks about it. That’s why I’m sharing my story.”
