Rainbow Counsellor Elijah Luke Michel is here to help with your problems.

The other day I had a mini meltdown at work. I lost my temper, threw my coffee mug at the wall and stormed out. It’s the first time my colleagues have seen me in this state and a few have been avoiding me since. How do I get their respect back?

Is this a familiar “state” to you? If you’re suppressing anger that reaches boiling point before bursting you may be wise to seek professional help. If however, it was out of character for you, take stock of your recent stress levels, nutrition and sleep, as each have an affect on our temperament. Either way, maybe an office memo expressing regret and apologising if you frightened anyone could be helpful. That way you’re role-modelling self-awareness, humility, and that you’re human.


I don’t want to sound like a grumpy old man but I’m becoming increasingly frustrated with the lack of funding and support for the older generation. Youth organisations receive more funding, publicity and resources than we ever did. Things are so much easier for them these days and I’m feeling forgotten after all we did to fight for their rights.

I hear where you’re coming from, and I expect there is an element of envy that we didn’t receive the same support growing up. Humans of all ages need each other – our youth will be the ones leading the way in future and need to be well-supported and guided, just as we need to learn new ways of thinking about and doing things. Our young Rainbow members are learning of the struggles we faced and have taken up the challenge to continue the fight against discrimination. We can all work together to ensure appropriate supports are made available to Rainbow people of all ages if we combine our generational wisdom and strengths.

ELIJAH MICHEL is a faithless Chaplain and Counsellor for the Rainbow Community, working with both Rainbow Youth and OUTLine NZ as an independent consultant.

If you have an issue you would like Elijah to address in express, email Questions are only viewed by Elijah and your identity will remain completely confidential at all times.