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I wish my partner would understand I don’t want to talk when I get home from work. As soon as my car pulls up he comes out and starts telling me all about his day at home (he’s currently between jobs) and what he’s read on social media. I know he feels rejected when I push past him and retreat until dinner, but I don’t know how else to express for him to leave me alone till I’ve unwound at the end of the workday?

You just expressed it another way. You used words. Clearly, your partner misses you and has little to distract himself with during the day. I hear where you’re coming from, but it is unfair to push him away without explanation. Are you afraid of his reaction if you asked for space to unwind? Or are you taking your day’s frustrations out on him? I’m pretty sure if you give him a hug, look him in the eyes, and explain you need some downtime when you get home from work, evenings will be much nicer for both of you.

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