Category: Opinion
What does it mean when a stranger shouts the f-word at a queer person in the street? Michael Stevens examines the impact. “Ya stupid faggot!” he shouted through the van window as I was walking our dog a few weeks ago. It’s been a long time since I’ve been yelled at like that in the […]
How to pivot from a relationship to a friendship. Fresh off appearing on TVNZ’s The Ex Best Thing, Zakk d’Larte shares his top tips for creating a genuine friendship with your ex. Ah, the ol’ ex. Like many others that have had relationships end, there have been times when I’ve felt like I’ve been stripped away […]
All cultures have an idea of what physical beauty is. They place value on it, and conversely on what ugly and unattractive are. Deep down how many gay men think they are actually beautiful or good enough? Michael Stevens discusses the freedom he found by finally shaking off society’s standards. As a teenager in the […]
While we all hate those dating app profiles that only mention what they’re not looking for, Dick Richards believes it’s smart to know what your deal breakers are so your next date won’t be wasted time. I’m sure at some point in our lives we’ve thought about who our ‘perfect’ partner would be. And I’m […]
21-year-old student Will rejects the claim that ‘it’s easy to be gay these days.’ It has been terrifying, numbing and frustrating, and I’ve told myself it’s all been my doing. The success I had set up for myself, the things I had worked hard to achieve and the future I had indevoured to create had […]
Urban Dictionary defines a ‘fuckboy’ as “a guy who will say anything to get a girl into bed, including pretending to want a relationship with her. Once they have slept together he will ‘ghost’ her and move on.” Not exclusive to heterosexuals, Dick Richards tells us about the gay ‘fuckboys’ he has fallen for on […]
More mainstream sports are showing inclusion for Rainbow communities by supporting Pride. However when Michael Stevens compares two sports stars’ rejections of their clubs’ inclusiveness, he wonders where hypocrisy ends and fairness begins? Have you heard of Haneen Zreika? She plays for the Greater Western Sydney Giants, an Aussie Rules women’s team. To mark Pride, […]
The answer seems obvious, but as the same names begin to appear on the boards of every queer organization Michael Stevens fears a stale monoculture is taking over, one that fails to celebrate when real change is achieved. Surely those of us who are or have been activists, are working to create change. If your […]